I’ve realized one thing by now and it’s that finding someone I actually like is hard AF. I’ve talked to a lot of different guys over the course of college and after, but one thing’s remained the same, I can’t seem to find a guy that I actually give a damn about.
So now you’re probably thinking, “but Kate… what about that guy from (insert college)? Or what about that one guy who was a (insert profession)?” Nope. So what is it that makes me so sure about my answer?
Because it took me a total of three days to maybe a week topssss to get over being sad about these mediocre bitch boys. Sure, sure I may have been bummed when we first stopped “talking” but I’ve never actually liked any of these guys, I just liked the attention.
Yes, I realize I scream commitment issues, but honestly what’s the point of getting into a relationship with someone just because you’re “bored” or don’t want to be alone for the holidays or whatever lame excuse you have? I see no point in it.
When I find someone who I want to get into a relationship with it’ll be because I actually see things working out between us or I see potential with them. I might be 30 by the time that actually happens, but at least I know what I want.
Actually, scratch that, if I’m still single by the time I’m 29 I’m going on The Bachelor. Nevertheless, here are some questions you should ask yourself to figure out if you actually like him or if you’re just bored.
Do you text him when you’re bored at work to keep you busy or are there personality traits you actually like about him?
Wellll, this is awkward. When I sat down and really thought about it, I honestly couldn’t come up with many personality traits that I liked about any of the guys I’ve ever talked to. Typically the most I’ve gotten out of any of their personalities is what they’re into sexually and if they’re good at sexting. Very deep. No pun intended.
What do your friends think about him?
“I promise he looks better in person.” I’m sure we’ve all said that before when showing a picture of our crush to our friends. But seriously, are you super excited about him or do you still find yourself entertaining other guys? If you have to ask yourself if you’re interested in him, you’re not. You’re just bored.
What kind of thoughts do you have about him when you’re not together?
For me, it was when I realized that right after hanging out with a guy I’d think about him pretty regularly, but once I got some space from the situation, I really forgot about it. The feelings fade and just like that you’re no longer interested. If you’ve already lost the butterflies when you think about him, you didn’t really like him, you were just bored.
-Your Basic Blonde
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