Alright, let’s cut the bullshit. It all comes down to one simple rule. If they wanted to, THEY WOULD!
Over the past few weeks this is something I’ve found myself having to say a lot, but seriously, it’s the harsh truth. If they wanted to, they would.
Now that we’re clear on what the rules are, no more trying to decode, analyze and figure out how to respond to these half assed texts from your crush. We need to stop normalizing making excuses, because of a “what if…” No. Just NO.
You’re deserving of someone who’s head over heels for you and who will actually want to make the time for you. But just in case you need some further clarification on what that vague text meant, I’m here to break it down for you.
The Noncommittal Text
“Maybe”
“I might be going”
“I’ll let you know”
Shut. It. Downnnn. Don’t even bother getting your hopes up for this response because what they actually mean by any of these variations is “not a chance, no way in hell, not happening sister.”
When they hit you with the “I’ll let you know” or “maybe” it’s because they haven’t actually made up their mind yet, but you’re really their last option. If everything else falls through, “maybe” they’ll make the time for you, but don’t count on it. And if they say, “I’ll let you know” that really means they’re not going to let you know.
The Rain Check Text
“Sorry, not happening tonight”
“I’ve just been super busy. I’ve got way too much work to do”
“Maybe another night this week?”
It’s the they’re busy 24 hours a day, everyday for me. Because really how much work could they possibly have? I get that people are busy, I’m busy myself, but I make time for those I want to see. If they can’t meet with you for an hour out of their day to grab a coffee or a short dinner, it’s simply because they don’t want to.
The Flake Out Text
“Sorry, I forgot to reply to your text”
“Sorry, I didn’t check my phone all day”
Mmmm, a classic. Chances are they didn’t forget to reply to your text, they just didn’t feel like replying. Also, everyone’s on their phone all day, everyday. You may be in and out of meetings and pretty busy, but you definitely check your phone at least a few times a day.
The fact that they acknowledged they left you hanging shows some courtesy, but only enough for them to respond when it’s convenient for them. Your crush was probably evading a conversation they didn’t feel like having with you at the time. And we all know it’s easier to ghost instead of talking things out and putting in effort.
The One Word Text
“Cool”
“Awesome”
“Okay”
It’s time to pack it up. You had a good run, but they definitely lost interest in you. If they hit you with one of these or multiple one worded texts in a row it’s a no for me dawg.
They could be “busy,” but more likely it’s that they’re not interested. If they were really into it, you’d be able to get a little more out of them than a non-enthusiastic “awesome.” Okurrr.
The Delayed Text
You: “Good morning:) What’re you up to?” 8:10 a.m.
Them: “Not much, just hanging out.” 9:30 p.m.
You tried to start the conversation out by being flirty and they replied almost a day later with a basic ass response, chalk that up as an L.
They’re clearly not interested. Sure, they could have been busy, but even then when I’m interested in someone I’m sneaking away just to get another minute on my phone where I can talk to that person. If your crush is taking their sweet time replying to you, it’s because they’re not crushing on you. It’s their way of saying that they have better things to do.
The Booty Call Text
Them: “Hey, whats up” 11:15 p.m.
Them: “You up?;)” 1:00 a.m.
The only messages boys send me because I’m going to be a single Pringle for the rest of my life:)
If your crush is interested in something serious and more than a hookup, no matter what they may tell you, asking to hang out later than 10:00 p.m. is a serious red flag. No matter what you want to think or how you want to try to justify it, he’s just using you for sex.
If your crush is asking you to hangout late at night, instead of asking you out on a real date, at least once, they have no respect for you and you’re just a booty call.
Everyone loves a dirty hookup every now and again, but if you’re looking for more, don’t give into this. Sure, this person can be a good time for one night, but don’t hold your breath on getting asked out by them the next day. I know, it sucks.
But if a booty call isn’t what you’re wanting, make it known.
The Random Sext
I know some more than others have received a random di*k pic or two, but receiving a random sext from your crush probably isn’t the best sign. When he sent you that pic, he probably also sent it to about 20 other girls on his Snapchat.
They’re just in the moment and attempting to fulfill their arousal through the first girl to give them attention. It doesn’t mean you’re special.
If you’re wanting more from your crush, don’t give into this. If they’re truly interested in you, they’ll be expressing that through any other way than an X rated picture.
Bottom line, IF THEY WANTED TO, THEY WOULD! If they’re interested, you’ll know without having to question what they really meant. Until they stop playing games, use your best judgement and this little bit of advice.
-Your Basic Blonde
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